Your marriage is discipling your children. In this powerful installment of our Legacy Parenting series, Lori Lane shares how the daily rhythms of your marriage—conflict, forgiveness, grace, and covenant love—are shaping your children’s identity, confidence, and understanding of God. Based on Deuteronomy 6 and rooted in the core biblical principles of Legacy Parenting, this article explores why your marriage is more than personal; it's generational. Discover how to create a God-honoring home that models emotional safety, spiritual formation, and Gospel restoration. Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, this is a call to intentionality and hope.

In a self-focused culture, it's easy to bring “me-first” expectations into marriage — but covenant love calls us to something higher. When marriage becomes a mirror for personal needs and unmet expectations, disconnection follows. But when we reframe marriage as a God-ordained covenant instead of a contract, everything shifts.

That protective instinct is a good and godly part of being a parent. But if we’re not careful, we begin to believe that love equals immediate intervention—and we end up rescuing them from something God might be using to refine them.

Discover how the Legacy Lens course was created to help Christian parents move from overwhelmed to anchored. Built on four unchanging biblical principles, this parenting framework equips you to disciple your children with clarity, conviction, and eternal purpose—beyond just behavior or trends.

Behind every scroll, tap, click, or binge, there’s a message. A worldview. A narrative about who your child is, what matters, and what they should believe. And unless we as parents are intentionally discipling our children, those screens will.

Psalm 19 says the heavens declare God’s glory—and when your child sees a spider spin its web or a pika hibernate at 13,000 feet, they aren’t just learning science. They’re discovering God’s character. These moments, big or small, are where biblical parenting and creation-based discipleship intersect.

Every once in a while, we have to stop and ask ourselves: Why are we doing this?

Why are we spending hours recording podcasts, writing resources, and building a platform that doesn’t promise quick fixes, trendy results, or immediate validation?

Why are we doing the hard, often unseen work of raising children with intentionality when the world keeps telling us to take the path of least resistance?

Why Legacy Parenting?

Struggling to stay connected in your Christian marriage while raising kids? Discover how biblical parenting starts with building margin in your marriage. Learn faith-based strategies to protect your relationship, align your family with God’s Word, and create a legacy of love that lasts. This guide offers practical tools for prioritizing your spouse in a busy, modern world.

When the goal becomes constant affirmation, soothing every hard feeling, or avoiding discomfort at all costs… something essential gets lost: the heart-shaping work of conviction.

Too often, modern parenting trades spiritual growth for emotional ease. But if a child never feels the weight of wrongdoing, how will they ever grasp the beauty of redemption?

Your child isn’t a performer. They’re an image-bearer. That means they are created with purpose, wired for worship, and designed to reflect God’s character. It’s your joy and responsibility to help them discover that identity.

When you model confession, grace, patience, and truth, you’re not just managing behavior. You’re revealing the heart of God.

Christian parenting isn’t meant to be a solo effort. When both mom and dad are discipled and walking in God’s truth together, everything changes—from the tone in your home to the legacy your children inherit. 

Unity in parenting doesn’t mean agreeing on everything. It means anchoring yourselves in the same foundation: God’s Word.

I hated going to church on that day and being surrounded by all the picture perfect families, their picture perfect clothes, picture perfect smiles and what appeared to be their picture perfect lives.  Picture perfect was not something I had experienced in the area of a father-daughter relationship.  I was in the minority there…a child from a broken home. My mom was wonderful and made so many sacrifices for me.  However, I’m sure you’ll agree…fathers are important.