Finding Your People: Why Biblical Mentorship Matters in Every Season of Motherhood
“Will I ever be able to put a sentence together again that doesn’t include the words juice, food, or diapers?”
If you’ve ever whispered something like this under your breath, you’re not alone—and you’re in good company. Motherhood has a way of drawing out both the sacred and the stretching, the beautiful and the bewildering. But one of the most consistent aches I hear from moms—whether they’re in the toddler trenches or navigating teens—is the ache of loneliness.
And yet, the very design of biblical motherhood tells a different story. It tells the story of connection. Of older women walking with younger ones. Of Titus 2 mentorship that lifts our eyes from the mess at our feet to the vision God has for our homes.
Parenting is not just about surviving the day—it’s about shaping the next generation with purpose, but sometimes that is hard to keep focused on with all the chaos that sometimes surrounds us. Intentionally seeking out voices of wisdom that anchor us, especially in the stormy seasons is vitally important. I know it was for me, and I’m sure it will be for you as well.
What Does a Godly Mentor Really Look Like?
Mentorship in motherhood isn’t about commiserating with someone in the same stage of life. It’s about receiving guidance from someone who’s walked the road, carried the load, and can offer not just empathy—but perspective.
Friendship with comrades in the same stage of life is valuable and comforting, but it doesn’t always offer us what a mentor relationship will. You need a mentor who can look you in the eye and say, “I’ve been there—and by God’s grace, I’ve come through.”
So how do you recognize a mentor like that? Still using those same Biblical principles that guide all of what we offer here at Legacy Parenting, here are some of the things you are looking for in a mentor.
· Relatable, yet rooted – Someone you enjoy being with, who shares your biblical values and can speak truth into your specific season.
· Duplicatable – A life worth imitating. Is her marriage Christ-centered? Are her children walking in truth? Does her family reflect the kind of legacy you are called to build?
· Older and spiritually seasoned – Not just in age, but in experience and fruit. Someone who shows compassion, but also offers clarity and conviction.
Why It Matters for You—and for Your Children
Mentorship isn’t just about easing your journey; it’s about forming a foundation for the future. When we allow ourselves to be discipled, we model a teachable heart to our children. We stop parenting from a place of pressure and start parenting from a place of peace.
This reflects the four biblical principles that shape everything we do at Legacy Parenting:
The Supremacy of Scripture – A godly mentor points us back to God’s Word, not just her own advice.
The Sacredness of Family – She helps us see our role in the family not as a burden, but as a kingdom calling.
The Priority of the Heart – She doesn’t just address behavior—she helps us tend to the deeper work of discipleship.
The Image-Bearing Identity of Your Child – She reminds us that our children are not projects to be managed, but souls to be nurtured in truth and love.
Where to Start If You’re Longing for a Mentor
Sometimes the woman God is calling you to learn from isn’t flashy or obvious. She might be your mother-in-law, a quiet woman at church, or a seasoned mom just down the road. She might not even think of herself as a mentor—but God does.
Start small. Invite her for coffee. Ask a question. Let her know you see her fruit and want to learn. Most women don’t step into mentorship because they don’t think anyone wants what they have to offer. Be the one to ask.
And if you're in a season where face-to-face isn't possible, carefully choose a few trusted voices through books, podcasts, or online content. But never forget: God's design for growth is relational, not just informational.
You’re Not Meant to Do This Alone
Motherhood is rich, hard, holy ground—and you were never meant to till it alone. The path of biblical motherhood may be narrow, but it's not solitary.
So reach out. Be teachable. Let someone further down the road offer their hand—and their wisdom—and help you see the bigger picture when the diapers and dishes threaten to blur your view.
Your children aren’t the only ones being discipled in this journey. So are you. And through you, God is shaping a legacy far greater than you can see today.
Faith and Courage,
Lori
